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There are those who claim that they do not wish to entertain a shidduch until they have sorted out a means of livelihood. However, they are not mutually exclusive. Once one has reached the age of marriage - and certainly if being single presents a nisayon/challenge in one's yiras shomayim - then one should look for a shidduch and often a suitable parnassah will be found simultaneously.*
* Shaarei Shidduchim p. 104. It should be noted that the Alter Rebbe writes in Likkutei Torah at the end of Parshas Bzos Haberachoh that the blessings bestowed upon a man is in the merit of his wife. This is also echoed in the Alter Rebbe's Shulchan Aruch Choshen Mishpat, Hilchos Onaah section 32 where he writes, "A person should be careful to honor his wife, for blessing is only bestowed upon a person's house in the merit of his wife, and that is what the Sages said to their generation - "Honor your wives so that you may become wealthy." Consequently, in the quest for parnassah, it may actually be accelerated in the merit of a wife.
There are those who claim that they do not wish to entertain a shidduch until they have sorted out a means of livelihood. However, they are not mutually exclusive. Once one has reached the age of marriage - and certainly if being single presents a nisayon/challenge in one's yiras shomayim - then one should look for a shidduch and often a suitable parnassah will be found simultaneously.*
* Shaarei Shidduchim p. 104. It should be noted that the Alter Rebbe writes in Likkutei Torah at the end of Parshas Bzos Haberachoh that the blessings bestowed upon a man is in the merit of his wife. This is also echoed in the Alter Rebbe's Shulchan Aruch Choshen Mishpat, Hilchos Onaah section 32 where he writes, "A person should be careful to honor his wife, for blessing is only bestowed upon a person's house in the merit of his wife, and that is what the Sages said to their generation - "Honor your wives so that you may become wealthy." Consequently, in the quest for parnassah, it may actually be accelerated in the merit of a wife.