Best Practices:
Earlier this month, we polled users on when a single should be considered "busy". Here are the results:
1. When researching a specific single - 14.3%
2. When two parties agree both are interested in meeting - 42.9%
3. After notification of Dor Yeshorim compatibility - 10.7%
4. After a first meeting is scheduled (phone/Skype or Live) - 10.7%
5. After a first meeting and up until communicating they do not wish to continue - 17.9%
What the Shadchanim Say:
Tzirel Frankel: Number 2 and certainly by number 3, but if there is a delay of more then 10 days to 2 weeks before they can meet, they would not be obligated. This is based on a letter that someone received from the Rebbe that we do not tie people up for long periods if it is not possible to actually set the first meeting within about two weeks.
Rochel Bryski: Number 2. Number 1 is absolutely no commitment. Once they agree, yosher is to be considered busy. Some people will back out and say they haven't done Dor Yeshorim yet, but I would say number 2 would be the correct answer.
Rebbtezin Leah Lipszyc: Number 2 until 5 - when two parties agree both are interested in meeting and up until communicating they do not wish to continue.
Rabbi Moishe Raitman: Number 1 with the proviso that the other party is aware they are being considered. If the other party is not aware, then number 2.
Fraydi Silverman: Number 2-5.
Thanks to our shadchanim for their feedback!
Earlier this month, we polled users on when a single should be considered "busy". Here are the results:
1. When researching a specific single - 14.3%
2. When two parties agree both are interested in meeting - 42.9%
3. After notification of Dor Yeshorim compatibility - 10.7%
4. After a first meeting is scheduled (phone/Skype or Live) - 10.7%
5. After a first meeting and up until communicating they do not wish to continue - 17.9%
What the Shadchanim Say:
Tzirel Frankel: Number 2 and certainly by number 3, but if there is a delay of more then 10 days to 2 weeks before they can meet, they would not be obligated. This is based on a letter that someone received from the Rebbe that we do not tie people up for long periods if it is not possible to actually set the first meeting within about two weeks.
Rochel Bryski: Number 2. Number 1 is absolutely no commitment. Once they agree, yosher is to be considered busy. Some people will back out and say they haven't done Dor Yeshorim yet, but I would say number 2 would be the correct answer.
Rebbtezin Leah Lipszyc: Number 2 until 5 - when two parties agree both are interested in meeting and up until communicating they do not wish to continue.
Rabbi Moishe Raitman: Number 1 with the proviso that the other party is aware they are being considered. If the other party is not aware, then number 2.
Fraydi Silverman: Number 2-5.
Thanks to our shadchanim for their feedback!