Simon Jacobson from The Meaningful Life Center hit the nail on its head. I couldn't have said the noted above better myself. 

The more shidduchim I am involved in, the more coaching I realize is needed especially in the department of prioritizing and bringing clarity to one's thoughts, wants, aspirations etc This is not just shidduchim related but in fact life related. 

Boruch Hashem, bochurim/girls and parents are valuing the importance of coaching; especially when there is a lack of focus and clarity.


Clarity of what marriage is supposed to be.
Clarity of who they themselves are (self awareness).
Clarity whom they are seeking as their ideal spouse.
Clarity what circumstances are deal breakers and what are negotiable.
Clarity as to what needs to be addressed and accomplished with each date.

How many times do we as shadchans or parents hear:

• "I like him/her but I dunno...."
• "I feel good when I'm with him/her but I don't want to give up my single life - my friends."
• "Seems good but maybe I can do better."
• "I can't stand the pressure."
• "I wish someone would decide for me already."
• "What should I do with my son/daughter? Apply pressure or back off. I'm having sleepless nights watching my child. We're all emotionally drained!"

Getting married is making most probably the most important decision of one's life to date. So don't trek alone. Use the resources at one's disposal like professional coaches, mentors, mashpiim, people who can offer an objective, common sense opinion.


The antidote to being overwhelmed or indecisive is CLARITY.


I'm here to help if you feel I can.

Mazel tov to Freydie Eisenberg of our Monsey Shidduch group, on the engagement of her son, Sochy, to Sarah Sherman, daughter of Michal, of our Philadelphia Shidduch Group!!

Let's keep the mazel flowing!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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The Pittsburgh Shidduch Group met Tuesday at 8pm at the house of Pessy Leah Lester. The meeting was well attended due to distribution on the email network of the Pittsburgh Lubavitch Women Organization.
 
Rebbetzin Sukie Rubin spoke about the importance of the group. Being a group means utilizing “achdut”; banding together. Only together, can we open the channels which will bring the shidduchim.

She reminded everyone to say the names of the children looking for shidduchim at the time of lighting the candles. Woman should keep in mind the names of their own children, as well as the names of the children of the other group members. 18 cents should be put to a special Hachnassat Kalla pushka each day and it is a segula to say the following chapters of tehilim: 32, 38, 70, 71, 100, 121 and 124. Sukie also emphasized the importance to be in touch with a shadchan, to give her/him gifts. 

Then there were the questions/answers session and we thanked Dr. Chana Miriam Hubner for sharing her experiences.
 
Each participant’s names and the names of their children were listed on a pan to the Rebbe. This list of the children's names will also be distributed to the group members. We took pictures, said L’Chaim, and then each woman presented the profiles of their children.
 
Thank you to Pessy Leah Lester for opening her home and hospitality for this event. Many thanks to Sukie Rubin for sharing her valuable insights.
 
May Hashem bless our efforts and enable us to see many weddings this year!